S2 That’s the thing with certain things that aren’t seen as….
S1 Acceptable within the community.
S2 Acceptable in the way of how you’re supposed to behave and do. You kind of have to hide it, in a sense.
S2 So, it’s like, I know a lot of people that are from the area. They would do certain things, but because it’s not in their character, or like, when it comes to being Bengali—and it is heavily to do with gender, as well.
S2 They’d have to go off somewhere and hide and do certain things because that’s a part of themselves, like, that isn’t part of their image here as a Bengali person. Especially with Muslims as well. Because if you’re a Bengali and Muslim as well, there’s even more added pressure of what you’re supposed to be like.
S1 Yeah. I think I was looking at that a few days ago. I was thinking about how say, like, we’re Bengali, but then a lot of our traditions don’t actually follow up with the Muslim kind of thing.
INT Whereas I think it depends, like, where you grow up. So, say, like, my parents would put more of enforcement onto the Islamic point of view. And I think a lot of our Bengali traditions—
S2 Whereas mine is more open.
S1 Yeah. The Bengali traditions are more based around—I think when you look at it, it’s more like Indian cultures. And, you know, like, the parties and certain things like that. And I think a lot of people are like—you know, when they follow that it’s like, it works. Kind of like religion and our kind of like background, it’s two different things.
S2 Own traditions, yeah.
S1 And I feel there’s a fine line, like, separating them because certain things won’t be accepted.
S2 And people pick and choose.
S1 Yeah. Certain things are unacceptable in our religion—
S2 That’s what it is.
S1 —that aren’t acceptable. Like, say even when you look at clothing. Like, say a sari. Like, the blouse, this bit of your stomach would show, and this, and—
S2 And that’s not allowed.
S1 So, it’s not acceptable in religion. Whereas—and, you know, in religion, you have to be covered.
S2 But it acceptable with our traditions, with….
S1 Yeah. So, I was kind of like, there’s a—there’s a very, you know—there’s like a balance and it’s kind of like hard to juggle both, isn’t it? You have to, like, kind of choose one that has to, like, become your main identity in a way. Yeah.